Family update
When my brother decided to divorce, we (my mom and other siblings) were very worried.
We have never had a divorce in our immediate family. When there is a problem (as all marriages will encounter), we work it through.
Maybe we did not realize at that point that the problems faced by my brother were different from those that other family members had.
It is now 4 months after the divorce.
It took almost as long for the ex to leave what is once our family home.
For a woman who WANTED the divorce, it sure took her a long time to leave a house that also houses her ex-mother-in-law (not a typical MIL, mom is such a giving person)
Things have settled somewhat.
They have agreed on joint custody of the kids (that is normally the best of a lousy arrangement for the kids, I believe)
My brother seems happier now (who wouldn't if u had a wife who thinks that money is the most important thing in life; she was also borrowing all over the place (which poor bro only found out when she failed to make the payments) If u look at her and what she wears, u'd think she has a great job and a big bank account. Actually she had even cleaned out her kids' accounts, borrowed from her MIL and SIL without paying a cent!
She thought that by mixing with some 'rich' people, somehow she would get rich by the association.
It will never be.
Bro once remarked that when u have cancer tissues, it needs to be removed and u begin a new life after that.
But let's forget about her and her issues. She probably need psychiatric help sometime.
The kids have their good and bad days and we have to understand.
They seem generally happy but of course, some part of them must hurt.
They are all even closer to me than before.
Their family are standing with them through thick and thin.
They need lots of hugs and reminders that they continue to be loved.
We are all becoming stronger and happier after this major happening in the family.
One last word about the ex SIL though.
Now that she has moved out, she very often comes (un-invited) for dinner!
Jeez!
We have never had a divorce in our immediate family. When there is a problem (as all marriages will encounter), we work it through.
Maybe we did not realize at that point that the problems faced by my brother were different from those that other family members had.
It is now 4 months after the divorce.
It took almost as long for the ex to leave what is once our family home.
For a woman who WANTED the divorce, it sure took her a long time to leave a house that also houses her ex-mother-in-law (not a typical MIL, mom is such a giving person)
Things have settled somewhat.
They have agreed on joint custody of the kids (that is normally the best of a lousy arrangement for the kids, I believe)
My brother seems happier now (who wouldn't if u had a wife who thinks that money is the most important thing in life; she was also borrowing all over the place (which poor bro only found out when she failed to make the payments) If u look at her and what she wears, u'd think she has a great job and a big bank account. Actually she had even cleaned out her kids' accounts, borrowed from her MIL and SIL without paying a cent!
She thought that by mixing with some 'rich' people, somehow she would get rich by the association.
It will never be.
Bro once remarked that when u have cancer tissues, it needs to be removed and u begin a new life after that.
But let's forget about her and her issues. She probably need psychiatric help sometime.
The kids have their good and bad days and we have to understand.
They seem generally happy but of course, some part of them must hurt.
They are all even closer to me than before.
Their family are standing with them through thick and thin.
They need lots of hugs and reminders that they continue to be loved.
We are all becoming stronger and happier after this major happening in the family.
One last word about the ex SIL though.
Now that she has moved out, she very often comes (un-invited) for dinner!
Jeez!
posted by akumangkok at
8:21 AM
4 Comments:
dear june..it sounds to me that your sil wants the have the whole cake and the icing too!
i just hope the kids know that they are very blessed to have you as their auntie, but i imagine they do!
you have always been there for them and they will not forget..
how kind your mother is too and i am glad that your brother can see some more happiness in his life..
and NOW you will all have to guard your wallets and not be opening them when that girl comes uninvited to dinner!....
praying for the best for the children junie..yeh..give them lots of hugs..love terry
sorry for my spelling..too early in the morning yet!...love terry
Hi Terry,
This post sounds rather nasty, doesn't it? But this is a major use of my owning a blog .... to 'say' out some of the pain I feel, without using actual sounds!
"There will be good that comes out of all the pain."
I always try to remember that whatever pain or anger I feel, it must be multiplied several times for bro and his kids.
This bad situation began more than a year ago but at least the decisions are already made. It was even worse prior to that cos it is not something pleasant to deal with.
Things will get better and better as they adjust to the new living arrangements.
Life goes on.
my friend, june..you couldn't be nasty if you tried..the truth is the truth after all, eh?
you are a good daughter to your mom and a good sister to your brother and a good auntie to your nieces and nephews and a good friend to so many! i bless the day that i ever did meet you through my friend, noel lewis's blog....
you nasty? NEVER!!..love terry
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