Pain sufferers

Life really is too short but sometimes, thank goodness that it is.
I met my cousin over the weekend and asked her about her Alzheimer suffering mom.
There is never a happy ending for those afflicted by the disease.
They just deteriorate.
This continues until death comes and the pain is gone.
Who suffers the pain?
I used to think that the patients do but maybe I was wrong.
When they deteriorate, they seem to go into another world.
Not knowing who their loved ones are and later also not knowing who they themselves are.
There probably is no pain there for them.
Just a new other world.
Meanwhile, their loved ones suffer day-by-day.
Living with a familiar face and body but not with the same person inside it.
The pain becomes unbearable.
My cousin was/is no angel.
But I have to give due respect to her for taking care of my poor aunt.
I have heard people say that when one suffers much in this world, it is probably because it cleanses u for the next one.
I'd like to believe that my dear aunt is being cleansed.
Sometimes u feel the pain for someone who does not even know that they are suffering.
Am I too being cleansed in the process?